I really resist talking about how miserable I sometimes am in my relationship because people continue to give me good advice which I continue to ignore. The only reason I delve back into this topic today is that I'm starting to think I'm actually single.
What is the definition of a boyfriend?
- The most popular definition at urbandictionary.com is: a great guy who make you feel good bout urself... a protector, and ur best friend
i.e.: "keep ur hands off my boyfriend, bitch! he's mine!" - 1. A male that one allows to regularly invade their pants.2. A male that one relies on to hide their insecurities.3. On rare occasion: A male that one truly loves.
i.e.: "Hey, girl, meet my boyfriend." - cheesey, but nice: Someone who makes your life seem like its worth living, someone who makes you feel loved, protects you, is always there for you.. A boyfriend is also someone you can define as the light of your life, the beat of your heart, the sun in your day and the stars in your night..
I'm hearing words like: "feel good"; "regularly"; "feel loved". I don't have one of these.
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I had an instructor is university who was quite an amazing fellow. He’d lived in a half dozen countries help 3 or 4 careers done lots of interesting stuff. He always had stories for the class which held us spellbound. They really did. They were funny mostly, but thought provoking too. Real life lessons in a way. Once coming into class haggard and stating “never buy a house without telling your wife”. Everyone wanted to be like him. Seriously. The entire class loved this guy. But we all had excuses why we couldn’t. Like, I'm in uni I can’t travel. Or if I change my career mid life I wont have the money for the “good” life. Lots of excuses and most of them lame. At the time I was no different from everyone else. I wanted to travel but I was in uni. Going to school to teach deaf children English language skills. Important stuff ya know ? That’s what I told myself anyway. But I REALLY wanted to travel. To see everything in the world. Every mountain and ocean. Every valley. Meet ppl from everywhere. Find out what their lives are like on the other side of the world. I'm a curious that way.
One day I realized the only thing stopping me was me. I realized that I was responsible for my life. Completely. If I wanted to leave school and travel I could. All I needed to do was do it. So I did. I got inspired and left Vancouver with 50$ in my pocket. A new backpack and hitch hiked East. Worked here and there for a few days or a couple of weeks to get me to the next place. I choose my next place scientifically. A map. A dart. Wherever the dart fell I would go. My year off uni turned into 10. I went around the world twice. I didn’t see it all, but I saw a lot. It changed me completely. I learned a lot about who I was and who I wanted to be. I gave up my excuses for not living for my dreams of what I wanted and started living my dreams.
What are your excuses ? What do you tell yourself to stay somewhere that is perhaps comfortable but dull. Routine. When do you realize that only you are responsible for you ? You can sit and mope about it. Many do. I still do from time to time. Or you can act. Words minus action = nothing. You can live your whole life wondering “what if” ? The choices are yours to make. Choose wisely. Only you have to live with you. Everyone else can run away if they like. But you're stuck with you. Life can be a series of memories based in just day to day existence. Or it can be an adventure. The power exists within you to do what you want. To live. To Die. Do you go up, do you go down ? Who do you want to be when you're 85 ? What kinds of memories do you want to have ? What kind of adventures do you want to have when you're too old to go adventuring anymore ? Life doesn’t wait for you or me. It’s an all too brief glimmer then its gone. Don’t sit there waiting for it to happen for you. Make it happen. You’ll be a far happier you.
All of this has meaning in all our relationships. The ones based in love, the ones based in friendship and the relationship we have with ourselves. The choices are yours. Again, choose wisely.
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^Ditto.
*e-hug*
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